Men, Boys, and Developing a Healthy Sense-of-self
We hear that being a man has its advantages. You rarely hear how developing healthy masculinity can feel like a real burden. Whatever it means to be a "man," much less a "good man," comes with a set of complex and hidden challenges that typically go unnoticed and unheard.
Sometimes us guys are reluctant to talk about our inner worlds. We may even be disconnected from them. You can coax us into getting that physical check-up at the doctor, but the thought of going to therapy is admitting defeat, having to ask for help, or a last-ditch waste of time where we'll be forced to "get in touch with our emotions." And of course we feel that way. There is a pattern of socializing vulnerability, sensitivity, and responsiveness out of men and boys in our culture.
Well, let me clear the air. Relational and emotional health are just as important as physical health. In fact, they go together like peanut butter and jelly. I've been coaching men and boys on developing healthy communication, relationships, and masculinity for over a decade. As a therapist, I regularly work with men (both cisgender and transgender), who are struggling with body issues, dealing with anger, feeling pressure to manage work and social lives—and these are contributing to anxiety and depression.
So, if curious about therapy, shoot me an email. I'm listening.